When I went to the spouse orientation a couple of weeks ago I met a couple of ladies that were also military wives and new to the base. They had been married longer than me and seemed to know much more about military life and all that entails. The one lady I was with when the PA system started playing each national anthem and she suddenly stopped while we were walking and I was talking. I also realized that she became short in her responses to me. So apparently if you get caught outside while the national anthems are playing, while on the base, you are supposed to stop everything with the exception of breathing, lol. When our national anthem came on she placed her hand on her heart. I did it too but was still talking until I realized I should shut up.
It was awkward for me as I slowly caught on and she, without being rude or saying anything, sort of gave off this polite "please stop talking" vibe. When we were able to function like humans again, she shared about talks with her husband that were along the lines of her representing him while out and about, which is totally true. Even beyond military life it is true that as spouses we are reflective of our respective spouse, whether or not we want to be. I talked to Daniel about this whole thing and he was basically like "yea." So thank God for a chill husband that I think might be hard to embarrass with my military ignorance. Then again he isn't what one thinks of when one thinks of a person in the military so there is that to consider too.
Being a household representative, and more importantly to me, accountable for how I make my husband look is kind of intimidating. I obviously don't want to make him look bad to anyone, especially a higher up, but then there is that piece of me that really wants to cling to my independence and free thought. Like when I meet a girl and she is super nice and organized and seems to have herself together then I expect that her husband is similar. So then when I meet some loud mouthed, messy guy I am confused for a second and kind of feel bad for the girl. Or when I meet men that are super chill and then they have a high maintenance wife and my mind is blown for a split second and I feel bad for the guy. It makes me wonder what people think Daniel is like after meeting me? Or what I might be like after meeting Daniel?
Anyway, this new culture (military not Korean) continues to shine brighter lights on areas that were there but that I wasn't focused on per se. I heard a pastor on the radio once and I don't remember what his sermon was about but I remember him saying that what we expect of him as a pastor we should also be doing. I agreed with him then and agree with him now. This scripture is about deacons but I think it is fair to expect Daniel to be like this as a man in the church and me as a woman in the church.
1 Timothy 3:8-12
8 Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain. 9 They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless. 11 Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things. 12 Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.
Being a household representative, and more importantly to me, accountable for how I make my husband look is kind of intimidating. I obviously don't want to make him look bad to anyone, especially a higher up, but then there is that piece of me that really wants to cling to my independence and free thought. Like when I meet a girl and she is super nice and organized and seems to have herself together then I expect that her husband is similar. So then when I meet some loud mouthed, messy guy I am confused for a second and kind of feel bad for the girl. Or when I meet men that are super chill and then they have a high maintenance wife and my mind is blown for a split second and I feel bad for the guy. It makes me wonder what people think Daniel is like after meeting me? Or what I might be like after meeting Daniel?
Anyway, this new culture (military not Korean) continues to shine brighter lights on areas that were there but that I wasn't focused on per se. I heard a pastor on the radio once and I don't remember what his sermon was about but I remember him saying that what we expect of him as a pastor we should also be doing. I agreed with him then and agree with him now. This scripture is about deacons but I think it is fair to expect Daniel to be like this as a man in the church and me as a woman in the church.
1 Timothy 3:8-12
8 Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain. 9 They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless. 11 Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things. 12 Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.
See you, miss you, love you,
Camille
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