Ladies,
During my prayer time today I was praying once again that God help me in my pursuit of being a "godly wife" or "Bible wife." Those of us that grew up in the church were taught that we should be Proverbs 31 women. THAT was who we should model ourselves after and aspire to be. THAT is what our godly husband is looking for. And so even though I didn't think that I would get married (and prayed to not get married actually) here we are, and here I am. Even back then I prayed that God's will be done and I still prayed for whoever my future husband could be (in case God changed my heart, and he did :-))...
What I didn't pray for was an Ephesians 5 husband. All the scriptures that talked about being submissive and I was JUST NOT that type of female, just not. The society that we live in is opposite that and I was educated, working, and supporting myself, so yea, just not (lol). Then after reading some Christian books and reading the Bible I realized that my husband was going to be treating me how Christ treated the church so that would be super easy to submit to, so maybe I could be submissive after all, in fact, I was sure I could be submissive!!!
Well, the thing is I didn't pray that my husband treat me how Christ treated the church. I for some silly reason thought that boys were taught the same things that girls were taught as far as the Bible goes. I assumed the boys raised in church were being taught that they should be Ephesians 5 husbands, that was wrong. Guys are not really taught that all along. They get taught this once they are about to get married or already married. That is not the same as growing up with it like girls do.
So while you are praying for what type of wife you desire to be, also be praying for the type of husband you would like, an Ephesians 5 husband. Now realize that you are not perfect, far from it if you are honest with yourself (always be glad for Jesus!) and give your husband that same grace God has given you. Ask God to point you in the right direction and then go in that direction, and that may mean some rough patches along the way but such is life.
Oh and this should be a discussion pre-marriage, "So, what do you know or think about Ephesians 5 and how has your life or is your life working in that direction now?" I asked Daniel a million and one questions before we got married from family stuff to previous relationships to current relationship status with Christ, etc. I made him uncomfortable and I was uncomfortable at times too but better that discomfort for a conversation than be in a marriage that I had no idea what I was getting myself into.
The moral of the story is, read your Bible, do what it says but don't assume that your future spouse is on the same page. You gotta put in work.
Love your friend and sister in Christ,
Camille
During my prayer time today I was praying once again that God help me in my pursuit of being a "godly wife" or "Bible wife." Those of us that grew up in the church were taught that we should be Proverbs 31 women. THAT was who we should model ourselves after and aspire to be. THAT is what our godly husband is looking for. And so even though I didn't think that I would get married (and prayed to not get married actually) here we are, and here I am. Even back then I prayed that God's will be done and I still prayed for whoever my future husband could be (in case God changed my heart, and he did :-))...
What I didn't pray for was an Ephesians 5 husband. All the scriptures that talked about being submissive and I was JUST NOT that type of female, just not. The society that we live in is opposite that and I was educated, working, and supporting myself, so yea, just not (lol). Then after reading some Christian books and reading the Bible I realized that my husband was going to be treating me how Christ treated the church so that would be super easy to submit to, so maybe I could be submissive after all, in fact, I was sure I could be submissive!!!
Well, the thing is I didn't pray that my husband treat me how Christ treated the church. I for some silly reason thought that boys were taught the same things that girls were taught as far as the Bible goes. I assumed the boys raised in church were being taught that they should be Ephesians 5 husbands, that was wrong. Guys are not really taught that all along. They get taught this once they are about to get married or already married. That is not the same as growing up with it like girls do.
So while you are praying for what type of wife you desire to be, also be praying for the type of husband you would like, an Ephesians 5 husband. Now realize that you are not perfect, far from it if you are honest with yourself (always be glad for Jesus!) and give your husband that same grace God has given you. Ask God to point you in the right direction and then go in that direction, and that may mean some rough patches along the way but such is life.
Oh and this should be a discussion pre-marriage, "So, what do you know or think about Ephesians 5 and how has your life or is your life working in that direction now?" I asked Daniel a million and one questions before we got married from family stuff to previous relationships to current relationship status with Christ, etc. I made him uncomfortable and I was uncomfortable at times too but better that discomfort for a conversation than be in a marriage that I had no idea what I was getting myself into.
The moral of the story is, read your Bible, do what it says but don't assume that your future spouse is on the same page. You gotta put in work.
Love your friend and sister in Christ,
Camille
Our first picture together, almost exactly 2 years ago :-)
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